The love in the struggle

 

The love in the struggle   

Self-determination and the love of the struggle




As most of you know, I’m a teen and in literally in the journey of, umm allow me to say ‘self discovery’. In my very short life, I have noticed a couple of this that genuinely determine what we end up becoming later on in life.

I remember myself telling people and myself that I want to be so many things, like a pilot or a dancer or even a singer. Unfortunately I have finally realized that it’s not about what we want to be at the ‘when we grow up’, it’s about the love in the struggle of what we are doing at that current moment. As I was progressing from form 2 to form3 and 4, I have realized that what we saw or assume we want to do isn’t exactly what we love doing. 99% of the time, young people such as myself just get into the trend of lying to other people and ourselves about what we enjoy doing so that we can be accepted in a family or in society.

We end up forcing ourselves to pursue something that we definitely aren’t good at just because we onto want to be judged on what we do or what we are pursuing to do. The lucky ones do get out of the rabbit hole early or later on and the unlucky ones will always be in this situation and end up realizing it when it is too late for them to change or do something else with their lives.


There is one thing that I’m so afraid of in life (well besides 2 other things), and this is a beast known as mid-life crisis. Some people may wonder and ask, “Maeve, why are you afraid of that nhee. Like it just happens”. I’m afraid of it because it hits you when you are now so old and most probably have a family and kids or maybe even a baby mama or baby daddy. In short you realize that the life that you are living is not what you ever wanted and you can’t really make any drastic changes to your life because you now have responsibilities and people to take care of. I definitely know that I would regret the choices that I would have made when I was young and busy lying to myself about my passion and what I am capable of doing just so that I can make people besides myself happy. That’s the worst feeling ever from my point of view. If you are in this situation, there is still time to change all the things that you love and if you haven’t reached this stage and are just wondering what to do,  have a theory that I made up literally 10minutes ago (>_<).

I thought about this when we were discussing the subjects of choosing a combination (either commercials, arts or sciences) for ones from 3 year in high school. Soo many people want to get into the sciences department, not because they enjoy them, but because they thing that’s what they want to do. Unfortunately these people don’t know that it’s a struggle and you have to work your ass off, literally just so that you can gain a descent mark. Once they get the opportunity to be in that department, they end up regretting their decisions and try to change their combinations again.


One thing that I’ve realized while studying my subjects is, you have to love that struggle that your department gives you. You have to love differentiation those functions all the time and you have to love struggling while working on that balance sheet. Why? Because the only way you can excel in what you are doing is if you have a passion in what you do and instead of getting discouraged when you fail, you actually get ore motivation and more drive to do what you are doing. If you do not have these things, then, what are you even doing with your life

It isn’t worth it to try and please other people by jeopardizing your life and future. Once things start going south, you will be on your own, and you will have to be able to save yourself from the situation you put yourself into.

 

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