SELF-LOVE VS SELF-HATE
SELF-LOVE VS SELF-HATE
Lately people who are into self-help have
been going on and on abbot self-love and self-acceptance. The idea of always
having to love and accept yourself has been so publicized and accepted into the
community to the extent that "self-hatred" has been demonized and
people shun the whole idea of hating a particular trait about yourself. In this
blog, will be discussing about the difference between self-hate and self-love,
and how these concepts should be applied.
SELF-LOVE
Let's start with the idea that has been
accepted in this generation and has been glorified by everyone. From my point
of view, self-love is something that is helpful, but then it has its limits.
First of all, we cannot be able to
practically love everything about ourselves. I too have been in a situation
whereby I felt as if loving the trait about myself would change the way I
think, but then it comes to its limits
I believe that if it’s a trait that you
cannot change about yourself (e.g. how big your forehead is or your height) you
have to accept it and show love to it
because we cannot change it and so we just have to accept it and embrace
it in the best way we can.
However this concept cannot be practiced when
it comes to something that we can change ( bad school grades, weight, etc.).
The whole concept of having to accept something that can be changed for the
better creates an environment where growth cannot be obtained and people do not
become the best version so themselves.
Why? You may ask. I'm pretty sure that no one
would want to change something that they love and have hardwired themselves to
accept. No one will really ever change something that they are content about.
There is no room for improvement in a content environment.
SELF-HATRED
This concept has never been talked about or even considered ever publicly because the concept has been shunned and demonized. From my point of view, the whole concept of self-hate has not been viewed in the right way and has been taken in a literal way that makes it seem as we don’t value ourselves, care and love ourselves.
The concept of self-hate comes into play when
we are talking about the things about ourselves that are changeable and have
the ability to change and improve. I a pretty sure that no one wants to deal
with something that they do not like or despise. This is the same about those
traits or things that we do not like about ourselves. The more we do not like
the a certain something, the more we are most likely to change it or improve it
into something that we will love cherish and appreciate.
I believe that this concept is more effective
in the sense that we will be getting driven by emotion to change our flaws and
make ourselves into the best versions of ourselves. As we all know, human
beings work better when driven by emotion. Channel that dislike feeling into
making the ideal self that you have always wanted and craved. Be that big
person that you have always wanted to be when you were a child by channeling
your emotions into performing the actions that can help you reach your goals.
This is a very controversial topic, I know. The reason why it is demonized by people is because it is seen I the way that is literally and not what it is about. If you take it literally, you will
surely end up being depressed and never be happy because you just decide on making yourself hat every single thing about yourself instead of embracing what cannot be changed and makes you yourself and actually hating and changing the changeable. People may also tak4 the idea of self-love way to literal and sit on their potential because they are content with themselves and everything that is going on in their life.
To conclude all of this, these two ideas need
to be applied in the right ways and be used in the correct proportions to
prevent the creation of lazy individuals who are narrow minded and individuals
who are not able to accept themselves and embrace themselves.
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