SOULMATES: What are they and are they even real?




SOULMATES 





SOULMATE:


-  A person with whom one has a feeling of deep or natural affinity. This may involve SIMILARITY, LOVE, ROMANCE, PLATONIC RELATIONSHIPS, COMFORT, INTIMACY, SEXUALITY, SEXUAL ACTIVITY, SPIRITUALITY, COMPATIBILITY and TRUST. 

- A person who is perfectly suited to another in temperament

- Someone that gets you the most and is a connection of minds, mutual respect, unconditional love and total understanding. 


As we can see, basically a soulmate is someone who is ‘meant’ for you and a person that you were ‘meant to be with, your ‘specific special person.


I am pretty sure that the majority of us know the theory behind the whole soulmates story, and if you don’t let me break it down for you. 

The soulmate theory states that, when two souls link, they will automatically get along and intertwine and become one soul that will be syncing in harmony. They will automatically connect and to will feel just right and you would have spotted the person that will be with you till infinity and beyond. 

Yes, I know I might have just overexaggerated the whole thing and made it seem and sound a little bit too cringe. But then if you actually think about it, we have. Benn made to believe that the whole cringe automatic connection thing is true, and I have at some point believed it too. Unfortunately, this only lives in Disney princess movies and fairy tales honestly.


From my point of view, soulmates are real, but then they aren’t so cliche and as automatic as people try to insinuate them to be. The soulmates that I believe to be there are two people/souls that are willing to be with each other, and share happy and sad experiences with each other. They are created through commitment hard work to keep being each other and conscious attempts to do actionable moves to keep the twos, should connect intellectually emotionally and spiritually. 

One thing that I don’t get about the whole soulmate theory is how people make it seem like it's so easy for these individuals to meet and create something beautiful. The mindset that the right relationship is very passive and needs little to no effort to keep in motion is one of the reasons why most of the relationships right now are just failing and the two most compatible people ever might just never actually last in a relationship together. 

Nothing comes easy, especially in relationships. For you to be an actual lover you also have to be a fighter as well because the most beautiful of things is built on commitment, hard work, tears and sweat. In this formation of a compatible soulmate, one has to humble themselves and create a space in their life that can be adjusted to meet the need of their chosen person. 


"People think a soulmate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soulmate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.” — 
Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love


In some cases, soulmates aren't even meant to be together forever. I personally view life as a book, and every book has parts, sections and chapters. In every section, part or chapter, there will be a change in scene and characters. The current soulmate or the soulmate that will come might just be meant to be in one chapter or section in your book (your life). Yes, it seems really discouraging and is sad actually, but then we need to consider the fact that in life we only grow when we are given a certain part or puzzle that will help us go through a certain phase in that moment. Some souls are just meant to help each other to reach a certain level or goal in their journey in life. 

“Sometimes, soulmates may meet, stay together until a task or life lesson is completed, and then move on. This is not a tragedy, only a matter of learning.” — Brian L. Weiss

 Soulmates aren’t just people who are in love though. A soulmate may be a friend as well. Platonic soulmates in short. These soulmates are actually the easiest ones to create in my defence. Why you may ask. This is because in a friendship, there is no actual commitment and it isn’t really ever much work to it because a true friendship is effortless and it just clicks like that. Two people will be enjoying the company of the other's raw character and there is no need for a major drastic change because you guys would have already accepted each other as is from the get-go. But be careful eye. Don’t just assume that your friend is your soulmate beaus you guys get along please <___>. 

   
“Some souls are just meant to be for each other forever, and ever, and ever!” — Avijeet Das

  All in all, the only way one can find their soulmate is when one makes a commitment to grow with another soul in a positive way and work with each other to keep the flame going (this also applies to friendships). 


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