FRIENDS AND “FRIENDS”: Part 2



 FRIENDS AND FRIENDS PART 2 



The previous post on friends and friends mainly described and explained the different types of relationships that we encounter and how different people consider situations that aren’t actually friendships as “friendships”.


Now…… what is a friend in the first place ???

A friend in simple terms is someone who gives you the right vibe, a person that you feel safe with and a person that you know you can do the most dumb shit with and they will not judge you for it. That person that would literally pick your drunk ass and drive you home. Do you have that?


  As we grow up what we need in a friend or in a friendship changes, and that is definitely normal and ok. As we grow we change and we need to accept it as it is because our views, values, vision and expectations from them change, and they will continue to change especially for people in my age group (teens). I definitely know that I don’t full know myself and it’s totally normal and the people I am going to associate with will change. If I get lucky enough I will grow with those friends that I have right now in the most positive ways possible. 



One thing that definitely needs to be addressed is the fact that most of us stay in some friendships that no longer serve us any purpose anymore. Now don’t get it wrong, I’m not saying that friendship is a service where your needs are met ( well it is but I’ll talk about that later ). My point is, one cannot be friends with someone who doesn’t have the same vision as the other. In this case the other will be pulling the other down, and stopping them from achieving their goals and reaching their full potential one way or the other. It’s the same way as being friends with people who just talk negatively all the time and don’t believe in you or pull you up when you need it. You might try to be strong and focus on your goal, but we are humans and we can only work with a limited amount of self motivation, the rest of the motivation that makes you do something definitely comes from your friends and the people around you. So if you are always around people who just stop you from doing something, even if it may sound dumb, then they might not be your people. 




Be aware of the people who you call friends who actually just want you to crumble and burn you to ashes. Some of your biggest haters are your closest of friends and most of your greatest supporters are the the strangers that you pass by each and every day. In most cases we don’t realise it because we are blinded by the fact that we regard them as friends and we care about them. These people are some of the reasons why some people end up failing because they had an absolutely toxic emotional attachment to them which stops the from making the best decision for themselves. Be careful. 


At the end of the day it is always going to be our own decisions on who to talk to who to tolerate and who to not give a damn about.




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