Relationships Episode 1: Friends and “Friends” part 1

 



FRIENDS AND “FRIENDS”: Part 1 





That’s the definition that i got from a random dictionary that I’d normally use at school. 


Now, friendship can be defined in many ways. The way people view a friend all depends on and is influenced by where one has grown up and how they were view their life. It can also be influenced by one’s beliefs as well. 


Unfortunately in this generation that seems to be full of chaos and drama left right and centre, there are people who are regarded as friends when actually they are “friends”. These people are a lot and the sad thing is it’s either we have come across these people, have these people in our lives or we are those people. All three situations may be in your life right now as we speak, but you don’t know it or you just decide to ignore it to “keep the peace”. 

“Friends” can be put into different types of categories depending on the person, gender or situation. There is the person that your befriend for benefits, the friend’s friend, the person you’ve known for the longest and just decide to be friends with coz your comfortable, the person you’re friend with coz you can’t be anything more than friends, the friend with benefits, the “fake” etc the list is just too long for me to finish,  (comment down below if you’d like a post that lists down all the types of friends). 





The best example of a friend that i can give is a person that is with you because they want to use you and then later move on to the “next best thing”. I personally have come across such and let me tell you it’s shitty. Like  this is me thinking that “we all in this together”(😭 comment down below if you know where this lyric came from) but then boom, news flash, they be gone when they see their next prey. The sad and disappointing this about this is they always come back at some point when they realise that the greener grass Is filled with dog shit. Now, let’s not point fingers at anyone in our minds coz I know that’s what we are doing coz we’ve once done this once or more than once during our “confusing phase” where we will be trying to”find ourselves know who we are and explore our option”. I know I’ve done this once because I’ve gone through the phase myself 😹(sob sob). Oh and another typa person is a person who becomes friends with you to pass time. Yoo I tell you that’s the worse. These ones never come back unfortunately. They are fast as lightning in fact😹. Now that I think about it as I’m telling you this ka so many of us have done it. Now stop defending yourself coz I know before you came to high school, you intentionally stopped talking to your “friends” and moved on. If not, then good for you 🙂. I have so much to say about this but I gotta move on or else I’ll end up writing a book 😂. 






Now here’s the one that touches people a lot. We all know those friends that seem as if they are dating but then refuse it once they get confronted about it. Well from my experience and knowledge ( yes I’m wise 😆), if you guys are attracted to each other you guys cannot be friends unless if both parties agree that it can not work.if y’all’s like each other you’ll end up being an unofficial situationship that will end with tears.  I’ve tried to be a friends with a guy that liked me once but it didn’t work. The other that friendship is the one where the other likes the other while that other is freind zoning them.I’ve once been in that one to and at the end of the day we’d end up being pissed of at each other coz he won’t let me be and he’d be tired of waiting for me. The issue is, in this situation, the friendship feels like jail because he/she won’t allow you to talk to anyone who they feel threatened by. For example someone that they actually like. 

And then there this one called the friend with benefits. If you don’t know this one please I cannot explain it because I’ll cover too much detail and this is a pg13 platform 😂. Go ask someone about it. So this one is a touchy one ohhhhh because it also comes hand in hand with the “besties”. So at the school that I was people will end up being besties to hide the fact they are are in an actually unofficial situationship or they are friends with benefits. This one’s a really complicated and tricky one, because in most cases they become what they are because one of them will be liking the other while the other doesn’t want any form of strings attached to the other just fun💔. 


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