THE BARBIE DOLL

I've noticed that in my generation, it's rare for people to be grateful for things because there is always a problem even when there is none. Let's say that I want a house, I get it and now I’m stressed about all of the bills and states that I need to pay every month. It is the same thing for me. I wanted to go to secondary school so badly when I was in primary school, and now that I’m in secondary school, I don’t want anything to do with it, even though I’m in my last year of it. Now, don’t get me wrong, constantly wanting something new in our lives is the reason why we have technology and civilisation, but if we are going to be constantly feeling like we are incomplete and never appreciate the good things around us, we will never see the good side to life. We will only see burdens.


Have we ever thought of the fact that some people in the world or the same community don’t have the things and privileges that we have or do we always focus on the negative side? One day, when I was about seven or eight years old, I was coming from a school with my friends and we were busy talking about how our parents refused to get us the new life-sized Barbie dolls when they were released. We even came to a point of wishing that we had other parents, imagine. This old lady who was apparently stoking us heard our conversation and said, “ You ungrateful brats, how can you say such about your parents. You are lucky enough that you go to school and have packed lunch boxes with you every day. Some children don’t have all of the things that you have and look at you, busy saying rubbish like this. You are even lucky that. They are still alive.” Now me being 8 and childish, I really didn’t know what she meant, all I knew was she was upset because I could tell it from her tone of voice. But as I grew older and saw more of the world ( look at me talking like I’m a centurion when actually I’m a broke 16-year-old ) I realised that what that’d lady said was actually right. I had all of the things that a normal 8-year-old needed and wanted in fact but that barbie doll made it feel like I had nothing at all. There are times when we have everything that we wished for but just because we have it, we start wanting more and we never recognise all the things that we have our privileges. There is nothing wrong with wanting more than what we currently have. That's the reason why we keep on going and trying in life because we want more, but centring our whole entire lives on that one barbie doll that we don’t currently have and making it seem like we have nothing at all is absolutely bad, annoying and well, toxic in fact. 


If we look at the world today, the only people who are one hundred per cent happy with their lives are babies. As long as they are clean, full, healthy and warm, they are happy. They are the absolute representation of happiness if you asked me. I realised that as we grow up and get exposed to more and more things in life, especially in this era of social media, we start comparing our lives with other people’s lives and start noticing what they have that we don’t. We start feeling like we are incomplete if we don’t have those barbie dolls that every influencer on Instagram has and we start neglecting all of the blessings that we have and receive on a daily bases. It's a repeated cycle. It goes round and round and round and round and eventually ends when we die, or when we actually start appreciating our blessings. In some cases that's when we find old people complaining about how they never had anything when they grew up, how they were always unhappy because they Ould not get what they want. If we look at it closely, that is definitely not true. Yes, life is full of shit, but it's not like we never get times when we have something great happening in our lives, or we just forget about it because we want something else, again. It all reminds me of the story of the prince who was given everything that he wanted by his father, the king to a point whereby he did not feel anything at all when he got what he wanted. it came to a point whereby he decided to abandon everything and start living n the street because he wanted more out of life. I know a lot of people, even I,  would want such a life but then we become ungrateful with it at some point just like the prince. If you asked me, he was an ungrateful brat, I would personally kill to have such a life but eye, even he was definitely not content with everything he ever wanted. 

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I found it really funny when I see YouTubers writing down daily gratitudes each time before they go to sleep in their vlogs, but now I get it. We have tendencies of focusing on the negative sides of our lives that we start to forget all of the good things that we have in our lives. “Like what?” Someone might ask for food, shelter, clothes, a phone, and internet access. We take those things for granted because we always have them. That's why a beggar on the street is more grateful than a CEO of a big company. We always what the barbie doll and it will always overshadow what we already have. 


its not a crime to want a barbie doll, but making it the pivot of all existence is absolutely outrageous. 


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